Have you ever taken a personality assessment like Myers-Briggs, Caliper, StrengthsFinder or DISC? I’ve done them all. And after every one, the first thing I notice isn’t what makes me special, unique and wonderful; the first thing I notice are my weaknesses, gaps and deficiencies.
I have to force myself to go back to find the good stuff, not only reading the positives, but hear myself read them “out loud” in my brain. It’s an effort and I have to really focus as I do it. The reality is that these assessments don’t even focus on your weak areas. Each one is designed to provide a clearer picture of your gifts!
Maybe you’ve been conditioned to do the same. I think it’s a combination of our mindset, confidence, experiences and, even to some extent, those we surround ourselves with. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Here are a my 5 favorite tips I’ve learned to use over the years to help me embrace my God-given gifts and talents:
- Focus on your strengths. Have you ever had a day where you were “in the zone?” It’s that special place where you’re immersed in a project and time passes by without you even knowing. You look up at the clock and realize you just worked through lunch. You were likely working in your strengths.
- Fight perfection. Face it, no matter how hard you try, you’re never going to be perfect. It’s not possible. The greatest athletes, singers, writers, and scientists all make mistakes. Frequently and often. Perfectionism is one of the great lies that we listen to. Instead of perfection, embrace excellence in all you do. Especially when you’re working in your strengths.
- Partner with others. Successful people know they can’t do it all alone. They look to partner with others who complement their strengths and talents. They don’t see it as competition – they embrace the gifts of their teammates, understanding that their collaboration is a win-win-win.
- Stop comparing yourself to others. You are YOU. Stop trying to be Johnny or Susie. You were wonderfully designed when you were born with your own unique talents and gifts to bring to the world. Spend time finding them and learn how to harness their power to live the life you were meant to live.
- Stop looking back. The only reason you need to look back is to see how far you’ve come. Successful people don’t live in the past. They use their past experiences as learning opportunities: how to get up after being knocked down, how to overcome challenges, how to do it again, and even the discovery of a new way of doing things.
Sometimes all we need is for someone to believe in us, give us some words of encouragement, or help us create a way. That’s what success coaching is. The best part of being a coach is helping you discover who you were meant to be and help you get started down the path, and watching you achieve your goals and dreams.
Let’s do this! #justbeawesome
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